I literally went from people pleasing to please me
This is called setting boundaries
Most people who seek to please others find themselves in a battle within because they are abused for trying to please others that are not pleased with themselves.
A great way to overcome “people pleasing” or saying ‘no” is to start saying no to things that are not conducive to your well-being, simply because making others happy could potentially leave a person in a rut that is hard for them to get out of and is not in alignment with your goals or intentions.
It took a long time to understand this personally.
Many times people appreciate hardships and look at them in forms of lessons.
The lesson I learned from my hardship of living with fibromyalgia is there is no way I can please anyone with this illness! I will definitely be worse off than I began trying to make sure I am happy and whole and then completely exhaust myself for others. And then unable to reach my goals due to lack of energy.
I do everything I can for me to be there for others but I must put all of me first and then I will be able to help someone else within my limitations if any.
It took a diagnosis or dis-ease for me to realize what I thought was right was the best thing for me to make everyone happy just to find my voice, not to say “no” to others but to say “yes” to me.
Understanding this empowered me tremendously.
I hope this helped someone today
Sending positive inner-G
Something Nubian 
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