Something Nubian

By LaTrecia

As a homeschool mom, dealing with teenager hormones, we are not exempt from depression or anxiety.

When I notice a change in the ways they behave, I try to address it right away, so that they know I’m present and there for them. I let them know that I too struggled in some areas at that age and what I wish had happened.

I also let them know I am grateful to be the one they have to talk to.

It’s common for individuals to experience negative self-talk or self-criticism, and this can often manifest as the mind dominating or “bullying” the body. However, there are a few strategies you can use to help stop this pattern.

1. Practice mindfulness: Mindfulness involves paying attention to the present moment without judgment. When you notice negative thoughts or self-criticism arising, try to observe them without becoming attached or reacting to them.

In our home nutrition, yoga, and meditation are practices we engage in.

It essentially helps to balance the chakras.

2. Challenge negative thoughts: When negative thoughts arise, challenge them by asking yourself if they are true. Are you really “ugly” or “worthless”? Often, negative thoughts are exaggerations or distortions of reality.

TLC made a song some years ago called “Unpretty” introduced my girls to the song because I know social media, movies and music videos gives a distorted view of what beauty standards are. I’m so glad they understood.

3. Practice self-compassion: Treat yourself with the same kindness and compassion that you would offer to a friend. Be understanding and gentle with yourself, and avoid harsh self-judgment.

We are own worst critic, but only practice makes ‘close’ to perfect

4. Focus on your strengths: Instead of dwelling on perceived flaws, focus on your positive attributes and strengths. Everyone has unique qualities that make them special and valuable.

In all my children when I recognize they have interest, I help them turn it into a skill. It boosts their confidence and show the others that look less ke them as well.

5. Seek professional help: If negative self-talk is affecting your daily life and well-being, consider seeking the help of a mental health professional. They can provide additional strategies and support to help you overcome this pattern.

Therapy may not be for everyone, but you won’t know until you try.

Compared to the 40% of white children, only 25% of black teens seek therapy in America.

I am currently working on a new skill generating images to enrich my family’s ideas with technology. We bounce ideas off one another and discussed how AI brought us together for me to discuss and write this blog.

Sending positive Inner-G 🪬✌🏽