Something Nubian

They say if you are not writing every day then you are not a “real writer”. I say they just have more confidence!

“I was too shy.”

However, the more you write the better you become and the better you become the more confident you will be.

There are a lot of people who write well and not publish a thing, or they hardly let anyone know of their ability to write out of fear of being ridiculed or just plain shy. I have experienced both sides and it was difficult to write and publish a book. I had to confront some deep issues of believing I could do everything on my own. But that was not true.

I could not illustrate and I definitely did not see my own mistakes, so it was impossible for me to complete the task alone.

I run across a whole mess of people who write about great topics on Facebook and other Social Media platforms but they are not convinced they are writers; I admire them and tell them if you went back and took a lot of your similar posts over a period of time and combined them, you may have a hell of a read. If you don’t believe me, see how many people like or comment about those subjects. This is similar to how I came to write my work.

“You know when you have something worth publishing when you can provide a solution!”

I was in pain for 3 months straight! It took several emergency room visits, many doctor appointments and finally a specialist to diagnose me. The whole time I was documenting my pain, diet and activities. I found that I had less time for family functions and only had enough energy for just the basics. I could still take care of myself and family but it seemed I would tire easily and had less interest in what others were doing.

I had two small children, my oldest daughter had graduated from high school and was taking care of herself. My normal goals were making sure the needs of my man and his children were met and if I could go to bed early I would unequivocally.

Each day I would write out a plan and if something came up or if I could not finish I would take note of it. I would wake the next day and complete the same ritual, after meditation. Keeping this routine came out to be important and before I knew it I was writing every day for about two months but I never told anyone what I was writing about, of course at the time, I never thought of publishing what I was writing, I was too shy.  

Being diagnosed with Fibromyalgia was nothing I ever heard about in my community. I felt alone and was too busy trying to figure out how could this have happened to me instead of spreading awareness, and when I did, I still hid it. I wrote an entire book, published it and did not share my illness. I did not want anyone to feel pity for me. I did not feel like Fibromyalgia was my start and finish.

Sometimes I wonder had I made that my platform would I be somewhere else today? I spread awareness about it now but The Black Woman’s Guide to Minding Her Own Business focused more on the mental, physical and spiritual state we are in as Black women! I questioned something that I learned from a student of Nealy Fuller, Jr. by the name of Frances Cress-Welsing who taught most of her career about all areas of people activity (economics, education, entertainment, labor, law, politics, religion, sex and war) and my moods changed daily until I developed a routine that was helpful to me, I needed it to be helpful to someone else without telling a sad story.

And that is how I knew I had something worth publishing because Iwas able to provide a solution!

Namaste